No masterpiece has ever been created by critic

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Be a Love Guru !!!
Imagine a world where:
> Your boss would give you a promotion every 6 months
> Your girlfriend/boyfriend would love you more and take you on more dates
> The underprivileged children you support would perform better in their exams.
> You would be the most popular person in your gang and all would look forward to you coming
> Your teachers would always look at you to lead different class activities
>Your wife would stop nagging you
Sounds too good to be true??
Well it is possible and here is a simple mantra. The no. 1 question I used to be asked was – “My Parents/ Boss/ Girlfriend/ Wife/ Teacher constantly keep criticizing me, can you help?”

I am 29 and my mom still criticizes me 20 times a day with comments such as – “Why have you kept the glass here?” “Why did you forget to switch off the lights?” “Akha gam ma seva kare che, gharma kyare karish?” so-on and so-forth.

After meditating for two days, I realized that what a child truly wants from his or her parents, the answer was actually pretty simple. I simply want my parents to appreciate me – “Wow, Amitabh I am so proud of you” “You are such a good son” “You always think of everyone” “You are so compassionate for the poor.” Then I realized that what our parents really want from us. It is not that we eat all our food or we are always rank no. 1 at work or school. It is actually simple appreciation like “Mom your dress is nice” “Daddy, you have worked and slogged so hard for us so that we can have all the comforts” “Mom your food is delicious” “I am grateful that I am born to such loving parents.”
So with this thought, I started giving my mom 2 genuine compliments a day. I noticed that by the end of 1st week her criticisms came down from 20 a day to 10. By end of 2 weeks it was about 1 or 2 and by the end of one month she started praising me in the house. Parents are always good at praising their kids outside the house to others, but now finally I was seeing something new and beautiful. So I proudly thought, I have changed my mom – till it struck me, did I really or did she change me? Because I noticed, I was not leaving glass in my room, I was switching off the lights in the room, I was helping mom in the house a lot more then ever before.

So while I started giving appreciation to my mom with the intention of changing her, actually I became more compassionate and loving towards her. I had changed. We ran another study with 25 college students and corporate employees. The results were staggering. On average 80% criticism decreased by their parents.

Same magic principal of two genuine compliments a day can be applied to your boss, co-workers, boy friend, wife, parents, children, etc.
Appreciation is the deepest human need and is lacking in our society
Try it and experience the magic in 1 week
Stay Unstoppable,

Amitabh Shah
Founder & Chief Inspiration Officer
YUVA Unstoppable